Hi Again,
Good and bad news. I have done as you suggested and yes eventually they forward load BUT I can only watch smoothly in the tiny window, when I watch full screen it plays like stop motion animation...horrible.
Still at least now I can watch something thanks entirely to you.
I hope the administrators are working on some of the problems with Flash and not just installing Flash and walking away.
Thank you again for your help as I wasn't relishing the thought of leaving a site I'd been with for so many years.